Have you ever seen that dinosaur movie from back in the 90s where the animated dino friends go to New York City and meet a really scary magical, sorceror guy? I really have no clue how it ends and honestly it is mildly horrifying and disturbing but I always think of it when someone says “we’re back.”
First off, I want to apologize to those that have been following the blog and waiting for another post in the last few months. I am humbled by all two of you 😉 I wanted to share a few thinks I learned on my siesta and update you on my latest projects.
Back in January, I posted on Instagram how tired I was with blogging and posting to social media and painting furniture and keeping the Duck alive and happy. Well – confession – I go burned out. Yup. Already in 4 months I couldn’t take it. After a failed attempt at reviving a dresser, I had a breakdown in front of my husband where he let me sob and vent about how I was putting so much pressure on myself and how I felt overwhelmed and vulnerable constantly. I was raising my first son and trying to start a business.
So, I took a siesta.
Here are some things I did during the siesta to clear my head and figure out why I was so UNHAPPY:
- Played with my son instead of turning on a show and blogging/painting
- Became a Minimalist (more on that later)
- Went to Mexico just Sean and I!
- Stopped flipping furniture for a bit
- Deleted Social Media apps from my phone and stopped posting/blogging
- Joined a Crossfit gym
After all of these things happened, I felt a weight lift from my shoulders and a cloud clear from my head. All of a sudden I saw myself in such a new light. My life was happy. I loved my day to day life at home with Ducky and not having a JOB to do. No quotas. No time constraints. No calendars.
I realized these 3 important things below in a few short months after doing the above six things on the siesta. Here they are:
- I hate social media. I am going to say that again. I hate social media. Even to type that felt good. It’s like I hit the keys harder when I typed those two sentences.
There was sooooo much pressure to post every day on Facebook and Instagram! Two posted are even better than one. Should I get a twitter? How do you even tweet things? Should I join LinkedIn? Should I be networking on there? If I want X number of people following me I have to do X many projects and comment on X number of other bloggers blogs and post X number of times on X number of Social Media forums!!! Does your head hurt yet?
Worst part of it all… comparison. Comparison is the thief of JOY. Man, was I robbed. Robbed of the spark that made flipping furniture exciting. Robbed of the anticipation of a new piece to paint. Robbed of the satisfaction that came with turning something old into something new and beautiful.
Social Media was the thief that ransacked the home where the love for the HumbleDuck resided.
Once I deleted those apps off my phone and made it harder to scroll endlessly down my feed and count the little likes that popped up on the notification screen over and over, my life became bliss.
2. I will not make a hobby a job. The whole point of a hobby is to be relaxing. Hobbies are suppose to be that escape from the grind of the bosses, time constraints, deadlines, and clients.
The minute my outlet became my job, it grew bitter.
The minute I had to post 4 times a week in order to build a following, I didn’t want to anymore. I dreaded writing blogs – something I used to find relaxing and looked forward to. I had to find X many projects to do in a certain period of time and that created anxiety and time constraints. My once pleasureful hobby was now a suffocating handicap. I realized my love for HumbleDuck was diminishing. Maybe I was done for good.
3. I will paint when I want to paint. When Sean and I decided to go to Mexico, we knew something had to be done in order to have a little more spending money. I decided to flip two pieces of furniture. Just two. No blogging. No strings attached. They would be whatever color I wanted and I would do them when I wanted. All of a sudden, I was happy again flipping these two pieces. But this was different than before. I felt no pressure to post to social media or blog or promote myself in anyway. I wanted to do this for me. Little did I know that I would be bitten again with the sweet, sweet excitement of watching a piece transform in front of my eyes.
So, both pieces just sold this week. And they weren’t cheap 🙂 I was happy to make up some of the money from our trip and have some extra for Sean’s birthday next week! What an amazing hobby. One that brings me joy and earns a little bit on the side. No deadlines, no time commitments, no pressure, no comparing to others’ businesses.
Now I have found I’m just itching to get my hands on another projects. If I want to blog about it, I will! If it inspires someone, hurray! Or if it just brings you joy and inspiration, then hip hip hurray!
If you’re reading this, I just want you to know that if you are anything like me or heard some things here that touched you, know you aren’t alone. Find that hobby or thing you love and make it your retreat. No pressure or strings attached. Careful not to poison what you love with the label of “job” if you can afford to. Those of you that have jobs you love that feel like hobbies, good for you! I guarantee you have fun other hobbies on the side that you love as well. Keep them that way 🙂
Here are the fun two pieces I just sold! Have fun 🙂
Oh and a big finish with the big boy!